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saying no, with a friend

Academics have a problem saying “no” to people. At the Get a Life, PhD blog, Vilna Treitler has an interesting solution. Have a group of friends give you advice on when to say no:

Forming a “No Committee” helped me get perspective on my limits. Let me tell you about my No Committee. On it, I have two friends who are both professors and the third person is my life partner. Their qualifications: they care about me, they know the academy well enough to know what challenges are there for me, and they keep up with me so that they know how much is too much for me to handle.

How do I use them? When an opportunity comes to me, I send them an email with the subject line “Here’s one for the No Committee” and ask them for their advice. In the email I describe the opportunity, what information I have about what it entails (and whether I can trust the information I have), and further, I normally list all my reasons for saying yes to this thing plus whatever doubts I might have, and I hit “send.”

Nice post.

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Written by fabiorojas

January 7, 2016 at 12:01 am

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